The Fetish Lair Blog for High Heel Shoes & Boots

What is wrong with wearing a high heeled shoe anyway?

2008-11-05T21:19:00.002-06:00

What is wrong with wearing a high heeled shoe anyway?

I’m amazed at how many times I hear this comment. Oh sure, there’s always the medical community warning of the dire consequences of wearing anything on your feet above an inch, each one smoking a cigarette as they make these declarations.

Yes, excess in anything will kill you.

But high heeled shoes are provocative, sensual, alluring and make the legs look great.

Crocs are for gardens.

By the way, Crocs now have to be sold with a warning disclaimer notifying people of the hazards of wearing Crocs and navigating an escalator. I, myself, have seen what could have been a terrible accident when a girl’s Croc folded up on her and caused her to fall forward on the escalator, and she did not tumble to the bottom only because of kind folks who caught her. Incidentally, the person wearing 5” heels farther up the escalator made the passage through with less dramatics - other than giving some old geezers a heart attack watching from the food court.

In the city I live in, anyone wearing high heels and a short skirt is instantly labeled a prostitute, regardless of where the said wearer is standing or walking. You’d think it was Pleasantville. Perhaps it is – does seems a little black and white in the winter time.

One should appreciate the high heel shoe for what it is… a glamorous item to adorn the feet.

The other day it snowed quite a bit here. One of those freak storms that hits in October and brings all the old branches down from the trees. So there was some ice build up before the day’s sun had fully hit the sidewalks.

I was sipping a joe and waiting for transit when a girl ran by trying to catch a cross-town. Expertly she stepped over the big mounds of snow, stepped elegantly on the icy patches and made the bus without a misstep – all the time wearing 5inch heel pumps.

She managed this better than some men did in their sensible shoes.

The high heels do not cause problems unless you let them happen. Bad posture, bad shoes, inattention to the very act of walking probably are the cause of more accidents than high heel related incidents.

I was running late and came to my favourite spot to wait for the bus. Watch the badly shoed masses stream by and such. But today it cheered my heart when I saw a young lady wearing high heeled boots with a short skirt and an overcoat that matched the hem of the skirt in length. She was obviously self conscious about her footwear and I smiled at her and complimented her on her boots and asked where she got them. Her confidence buoyed, she trotted off to catch her transit. I caught mine feeling good, knowing that the high heeled tradition is alive and well.

Heelfully Yours

Gillian

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High heels and corsets make you feel sexy!

2008-01-06T18:55:00.000-06:00

Why should anyone wear high heels?

Well, there is no reason. No reason at all. Doesn’t make sense and if you looked at high heels pragmatically, one should never wear high heels.

But then… why would anyone wear jeans half way down their legs causing them to walk like a castrated penguin. No reason at all. Doesn’t make sense and if you looked at wearing jeans half way down one’s legs causing one to walk like a castrated penguin… one should never where jeans like that.

You can say the same for baseball caps on backwards rendering the bill of the cap useless. Or, you could say wearing hooded parka’s in the middle of summer to be, well, odd as well. Or, bandanas that cover your eyes… should I go on?

High heels on the other hand causes the wearer to walk and stand in a sexy position, whereas the aforementioned apparel items tend to make you look like a penguin. Have you ever seen a guy running wearing jeans half way down their legs causing them to walk like a castrated penguin. Not pleasant. Often comical.

Whereas, some one running in high heels is often done, with less hilarity. Unless, you are in a movie and then you will fall down to allow the chainsaw wielding maniac to catch up. Unless, you’re the person chasing, then you have no problem running and catching the diamond thief.

Ahh, one always falls down while wearing high heels while being chased by a chainsaw wielding maniac. True… but so does the sneaker wearing cheerleaders, what’s your point.

High heels serve only one person. To convey sexual power and sexuality. Is that a problem. (okay, those of you from the Church of Making Life Boring Latter Day Downers CMLBLDD can leave the room)

While wearing high heels, a sense of sexuality overwhelms the wearer. Not unlike wearing a corset… a tight corset for that matter. It curves your waist and makes you stand, and sit, more erect. The high heels, the corset, are both items of clothing that never let your body forget you’re wearing them. Unlike baggy fleece sweats and bulky pullovers, items of clothing indistinguishable from pajamas, corsets and high heels chafe against your skin, tug and pull and always remind one they are on your person.

There are two types of clothing wearers in the general public weal. I label them the Guess girls and the Clown girls. The Guess girls wear heels, have well maintained haircuts that lend to the provocative, tight skirts and tops, and are not afraid to show some leg. The clown girls look like… well… clowns. Really! Bulky pullovers with some sort of slogan on them… fleece track pants that usually have some sort of school name on the butt… Ugly boots, and if the climate is cooler… one of those bulky, Nordic woven hats that have flaps over the ears with strings that dangle (but never tied) and one has to make sure the top sticks way up into the air. All that is missing is a red nose and large gag horn.

Strangely, each group thinks they are sexier than the other. I, for one, think the contest is more like Angelina Jolie versus a Manatee. (not to say there are guys out there that get all excited around a Manatee… and conversely, Manatee’s that get excited when they see Ms Jolie.) All things considered, Angelina is easier on the eyes and gets hit with far less boat propellers.

So wear your high heels and if you feel adventurous, your corset, and let these items of clothing remind with each body movement how sexy you are. Why not?

Heelfully Yours

Gillian

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High Heel Shoes... it's An Acquired Taste.

2007-07-29T20:34:00.000-06:00

Why would anyone wear high heels in the first place?

This is something I hear a lot of – or – high heels … I just don’t get it… it doesn’t do anything for me.

And these are valid comments. Unfortunately, for those of us who DO love high heels these sentences are mere gibberish. They might as well be saying, diggity, diggity, ya, ya, traveling pants.

You get it or you don’t.

Just like fishing. I don’t get that… can’t see the attraction of standing around with a pole and line in your hands waiting for a fish to mistake a rubbery doodad for a night-crawler and jump into your fishing net.

Equally, I don’t get TV shows on fishing period. Might as well sit on a couch staring up at three fruit flies buzzing around a lighted lamp.

High heels are sex. Period. Nothing less. They make a woman walk and feel sexy. Men enjoy looking at heels and legs. High heels and shapely legs go together like Penn & Teller. Penn without Teller is just, well… exceedingly odd!

To watch a woman walk with skill and panache wearing high heels is always such a sexy sight. Watching a woman wearing flip flops does not hold the same charm or allure. Flip flops, for some unknown reason, seem to cause wearers to splay their feet outward and become Charlie Chaplin as they walk. (Accept for Asian woman, who seem to have a knack for walking delicately in flip flops).

A woman wearing heels can not walk in such a fashion. The heels force one to walk with feet and toes facing forward, and if the wearer is feeling provocative, will sway the leading foot slightly to the opposite side of the body causing a glide, not unlike a speed skater as they hit their stride.

That is the difference. That is the attraction of high heels. Extreme heels are somewhat kinky, but if you ask me, so are facial peels. (I think, and I could be wrong here, but peeling away layers of skin was a medieval torture… something akin to someone being skinned alive)

And yet… some people don’t get high heels.

And so be it!

If you don’t get it, then don’t visit my crib! I don’t visit those who adore flip flops! It’s a crazy world that way. Some people listen to Britney Spears while others listen to Goldfrapp. It’s a matter of taste.

So let’s recap then, shall we.

Famous movie stars who wore/wear heels… Angelina Jolie, Marilyn Monroe, Ava Gardner, Bettie Page, Jennifer Lopez, Jean Harlow, Gwen Stefani, Gwyneth Paltrow and so many more..

Those stars who made impressions in flip flops. Can’t think of anyone. Perhaps the girls on Hee Haw!

It’s clear to all now. Heels are sexy. Heels are provocative and alluring. And for those who don’t get it… get over it!

Gillian

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Sensible shoes (blah) - High Heels (Yeah!)

2007-05-29T20:55:00.000-06:00

The last few months have been better than most. Perhaps the flip flop, croc fad is over?

I have seen many more women wearing significant heels as an everyday occurrence and it is heartening and so refreshing to see. I have seen in broad daylight a lady wearing thigh-high boots – casually. Now, high heels are great all the time, but I am also seeing just better shoes on ladies in general and this can only be a good thing.

Yet I was intrigued by the gait of these women. Some were super slim and others a little more chunkified – but each showed the same characteristic when they walked.

Because there buts were jammed a little higher on the back side, when they took a step forward ( and as their leg swung towards the front of their body) I noticed how the cheeks of the butt would drop a little and then swivel upwards.

One lady, who had obviously been wearing heels for years, and who was wearing these amazing boots that stopped just above the knee, had a step that was very accustomed to wearing heels. Her legs would accommodate automatically for each step and she walked with a confidence and a slow, sexy pace that emphasized the heels and the boot but did not show any sign of strain or clumsiness. I was in awe.

Further, I saw another women who dashed down the street in 4 inch heels stepping over grating and pan-handlers as if she was wearing a snug pair of Adidas. Coincidently, another women slipped and fell stepping of a curb – in flats. The shoe just slipped of her foot and by not concentrating managed to tumble onto the pavement, shopping bags and humility lying beside her.

Yes, the doctors and religious right decry the wearer of the high heel shoe. However, I see just as much damage done with those flimsy and unsupportive ballet slippers that seems to be the new rage. (Marge Simpson shoes)

Stop the yelling and at least get a pair of good shoes… shoes that fit… that support. And yes if they happen to have a 5” heel on them… all the better!

Heelfully Yours
Gillian

Conformity, thy name is tastelessness

2007-03-27T22:17:00.000-06:00

Conformity. It’s been on my mind lately.

The reason is the change of seasons actually. Spring doesn’t exist anymore and now we move from Winter to Summer in the space of a thunderstorm.

And with that is the departure of boots and their leathery enclosures and spikey heels (usually) and is replaced with flip-flops, crocs and the like.

Sigh!

However, I was thinking the other day, almost praying, that this phenomena doesn’t exist in other places … in other cities. This city, Melonville, is filled with lemmings. (I’ve spoken of this before.)

Fashion lemmings. If one person establishes a fashion atrocity (e.g. crocs) then everyone rushes out to emulate it. Heaven forefend if they are caught NOT looking exactly like the person next to them.

For example, the shirts. There is a fashion right now, where one is to where a slightly smaller shirt over a baggier shirt of which hangs down over the bum. It gives the appearance of having dressed in the dark. Probably an Old Navy perpetration – and - can you blame them!! It doubles their shirt sales – Voila!

Everyone wears this uniform now.

Ten years back it was the black top, khaki pants fad. I used to call it the Melonville uniform. It was like one of those horrible scary movies where everyone in town is possessed by creatures from an alien lagoon and must wear the same thing.

Ditto for acid wash ten years before that!

That brings us to today. That is why everyone wears flip-flops and crocs. Not to mention that many have poor taste. Especially in their choice of shoes.

High heels are not for everyone. I wouldn’t want that. It would detract from the elegance of them and frankly, given the propensity of most to gravitate to ugly shoes, the quality of the high heel would degenerate. (e.g. running shoe high heels – what was that about!)

So the equation is thus: poor taste + lemmingness = flip-flops (variable is crocs)

It just doesn’t add up to a good summer – shoe wise!

Heelfully Yours

Gillian

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Blessed Is the High Heel, And Lo Shall It Be

2007-02-11T23:21:00.000-06:00

Blessed are those with high arches.

It does give us an unfair advantage. I have extremely high arches so wearing high heels has never presented itself as an issue. For those not so blessed it must make walking in heels all that much harder.

And yet…

One can get used to it. What makes walking in high heels so difficult is… NOT walking high heels.

For instance, if you watch a downhill skier fly past the posts at break neck speeds you say to yourself… can’t be hard, you just slap sticks to your feet and push off at the top of the hill and let the miraculous work of gravity suck you down the hill.

Oh yeah… give it whirl sometime. Make sure all your affairs are in order and that the health coverage is paid in full.

Or perhaps car racing! Driving around a large oval, one direction… heck I do that on the freeway all the time. Fast and furious… Tokyo Drift up the off-ramp all the time after scooting underneath the big rig to catch the de-acceleration lane in time.

Okay … give that a whirl sometime.

Once again, paramedics should be standing by and maybe a Priest or two.

It is not that easy but those who do participate in these sports make it look easy. Why? Well, they don’t sit around watching ‘Rosanne’ reruns eating pork rinds all week - then get up off the couch, head to the slope and then ski!

They practice all the time.

The same holds true of high heels. Wear them every so often and yeah!! They’re gonna hurt. So duh! That’s why I can’t forbear anyone who shuns high heels because they hurt their precious little tootsies.

Ski once and awhile and boy that is gonna hurt too! So duh!

Do purchase a couple of pairs of high heel shoes ( or boots) and wear them into the ground. Your life will improve dramatically and you can also say you're and extreme sport practitioner. Slammin’, dawg!

Heelfully Yours
Gillian

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The Winter of Our Discontented Heels

2007-02-02T00:05:00.000-06:00

Well, it's winter time. Something about discontent.

And boy am I discontented.

Usually, the winter time allows boot wearers to show of their heels and leather clad legs. Boots are easier for most to wear heels as the leathery shaft up and over the ankles allows some measure of support.

But alas... what do I see. Crocs and even flip flops.
Not to mention even though there's a couple of inches of snow on the ground these ugly shoes still show up.

Mind you, I live and work and fetish in a university town, so the rule is to dress like you're staying at the Salvation Army
It's not necessary... these are rich students. I mean... very rich. But their fashion sense is shameful and borders on being discriminatory, if at the very least hypocritical.

Yet lo' and behold what did I see tonight!!

A vision.

A loveliness!

A girl wearing shiny black platform boots. Nothing fancy. Just with jeans and a stylish jacket. It was understated and sexy all at once. And she walked magnificently in them.

But why not?

It's amazing what humans can do with practice. Just watch the Cirque du Soleil Those acrobats can twist and jump and climb and well… they can do anything they put their mind to – to create art with their bodies.

The same holds in the other direction, such as the family in Turkey where they walk on all fours because their minds tell them this is the way it should be done.

High heel shoes are not that difficult to walk in. . . only the state of mind makes it so.

Heelfully Yours

Gillian

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Why Hide the High Heels? Why?

2006-12-08T11:04:00.000-06:00

Wearing high heels can be secretive, if you want.

You don’t have to wear them with a tight skirt and a nice wide belt. You should… but you don’t have to is what I’m saying.

Why not show off your heels is my motto.

This came about when I noticed an attractive woman, very Mediterranean in appearance, who was wearing some nice boots with 4 inch high heel spikes. Perfect said I.

We were both riding the public transit and she was engrossed in a cell-phone conversation… but then who isn’t these days. I suspect more people get hit by buses while talking on their phones than one would imagine.

She got up and then I realized that the jeans she was wearing completely covered her heels and boots. The hem of the pant leg ended just at the floor completely obscuring the heel and all but the tip of her pointed boot.

Okay, if you are embarrassed about wearing heels, although, I can’t imagine why, this is the route to go. And I applaud the fact she was wearing some significant high heels. Yet, it almost felt like a hollow victory because the beauty of the heel was hidden, even though her gait was graceful and predicated by the heels which gave her that fantastic step.

Oh well… at least she was wearing heels. Perhaps I should take the victory and go home.

Which I did.

Heelfully Yours
Gillian

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Skirts and Heels, Skirts and Heels... Oh My!

2006-11-09T11:58:00.000-06:00

There’s nothing like seeing a well fitting skirt with some high heel shoes.

Oh, sure… high heel shoes or boots look fantastic with jeans or pants. Yet, seeing a nice skirt, short or long, with a pair of heels is always refreshing and very sexy.

Provocative even.

And that is the way you should show of your heels… with a nice skirt. The skirt doesn’t have to be tight. It certainly helps, but a skirt that falls just right and enhances the shoes can do more than a tight skirt.

So put away the jean skirts. That’s so last millennium. Besides, if your over 18, it’s no longer chic. No longer cool.

Go with the classic black skirt. It always works, anytime of the year.

As for high heels shoes… the nice thing with a black skirt is you can use just about any colour other than brown.

Besides, if your going to invest high heel shoes that properly fit, then buying brown or even worst – burgundy – shoes is a total waste of money. And says more about your personality than it does about your fashion sense.

So ditch the brown shoes. For the love of all that is sacred, get rid of the brown shoes. Now what you have left will match nicely with those black skirts you just own.

And if after your brown shoe purge has left your shoe closet a little empty… well! Need I say it!! Shoe shopping!!!

Heelfully Yours

Gillian

The Walk Is All In The High Heel Shoes

2006-10-09T21:50:00.000-06:00

Walking in high heel shoes corrects your gait.

It does. Really!

I noticed this the other day, while I was sitting in a shopping mall sipping a fresh cup of joe, when I started to notice the way some woman walk.

Odd, I thought to myself. There’s something I have overlooked. I noticed an attractive young lady with a snappy hair style and rather voluptuous breasts. She was well dressed although a little casual, but she was wearing the dreaded flip flops.

No matter… I mean … this is Flip flop town… after all.

Beside the point that wearing flips flops to a shopping mall rather than a pair of nicer shoes is akin to wearing scuba diving fins to a fancy restaurant, the flip flops, if worn all the time, I believe starts to train the wearer to walk like a penguin.

You heard it… like a penguin.

Why you ask?

I have noticed this trait over the years but never put it together. That wearing certain forms of shoes (e.g. flip flops, cowbot boots) causes the wearer to walk with a shuffle and the feet splayed outwards like a penguin.

Probably so they can walk in those shoes.

They kind of take on the appearance of a character in a Dr. Suess animation.

Whereas a person who wears high heel shoes is forced to walk in a straight line, one foot in front of the other, and causes the wearer to become conscious of each step and the way their body moves.

High heels trains the whole body to move with grace and precision, whereas if all you have worn are flops and runners, then you tend to walk like a football player… or even a penguin.

Therefore, I cry out to the modern world. Forsake the flops and runners and begin to wear high heels… for your own sake. At least stop wearing them in shopping malls. I mean really!

Heelfully Yours

Gillian

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High Heel Shoes Influence Your Walk!

2006-10-02T15:38:00.000-06:00

It’s all in the way you walk.

Women who don’t wear heels walk differently from those that do. It’s just the way your gait is trained, I suppose, but those who wear heels walk with a style, a grace, if you please.

Those who have worn nothing but running shoes, flip flops and Marge Simpson shoes walk like football players. No question.

Therefore I have categorized these two distinct groups into their groups: high heelers and footballers.

High heels will train the wearer to step with flair. The legs have to swing forward, and the heel must touch the ground before the ball of the foot. There is no mashing the ground as if there was a rodent to be killed as the footballers do.

It is often said you can’t run in high heels (I beg to differ), but have you ever seen anyone running in flip flops? Oh the hilarity ensues.

Or the shapely line of a elegant boot can make your whole silhouette seem all that more glamorous, whereas if you were wearing a skirt and some Marge Simpson shoes, you will appear, and walk, like someone about to guard a runningback.

Drag Queens know this implicitly. Do you see them walk around in Marge Simpson shoes? Not on your life. The whole look and feel of a feminine look starts with the shoes! And that means high heels baby!

Everything else above that enhances the footwear and vice-versa. Even male legs can look better in high heels, so it should work fantastic for a pair of ladies gams.

But then again, if you are afraid a running-back will be coming out of the back field at the office… by all means, wear some cleats!

Heelfully Yours

Gillian

Shops Full Of High Heel Shoes, Shoppers Who Wear Flats

2006-09-10T23:10:00.000-06:00

Without a doubt, high heels can elongate your legs and make them look sexier.

Then why is there so much argument about this.

In this day of age when botox injections, nip & tuck, liposuction, etc etc are all the vogue and tacitly accepted, why are high heels so venomously attacked as arbiters of crippledom.

I don’t get it.

Today, I saw an attractive young Malaysian in the mall, who was also a little on the skinny side and quite petite, wearing 4” heel pumps. She looked magnificent. Credit the high heel shoes.

They made her walk with grace and sexuality as her hips swayed with each step, making her more woman than a little girl, which is a look she could have easily adopted.

Hell, all the girls in the mall looked like BritSpearian tramps: all with lousy footwear. Yet all around them were shoe shops displaying marvelous selections of shoes and footwear. Alas, they were all adorned with flip flops.

I don’t get it.

I mean what is the harm in wearing even good or attractive shoes. I will even give you a pass to wear shoes that are not high heeled. Why is it so hard to wear attractive shoes?

Now, I live in a city where there are only two shoe seasons. Boots and flip flops. And it is also a University / College town so there are now thousands of young souls entering this city bringing with them the fashions from around the world.

But this city is strong! It has the strongest conformity factor known in the Universe. (A friend of mine from out of town once thought we had an acid wash denim factory here because when he visited he saw everyone wearing acid wash -- everything) Fads, once adopted, must be strictly adhered to lest yee be banished to less popular nightclubs.

It only takes a couple of weeks and presto – bango! They become assimilated. Apparently their resistance WAS futile.

Conformity, thy name is Melonville! It is hard to be well dressed or even slightly out of sorts of the faddish conformity this city presses upon one. Probably due to it's bible beltiness attitudes of "ye are either with us, or against us" this brings with it.

So why all the flat heeled shoes in this naked city? I attribute it to it’s coarseness in fashion. In other words, they do not have their Fash’ on … but rather have their Fash’ off!

I don’t get it.

Heelfully Yours

Gillian
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To Stand Out In A Crowd - Wear High Heels!

2006-08-26T18:20:00.000-06:00

One thing I noticed about Melonville… because most women wear the ugliest shoes imaginable, the really nice ones really stand out.

And that, I suppose, is the rub!

It’s probably all perspective. In a sea of ugly, brownish, smeared and scuffed rowboats, a bright shiny one really sticks out. And then the envy sets in.

However, if there are lots of shiny red boats, and shiny blue ones and shiny black ones, then it would become somewhat common face and accepted. Perspective.

Why do I say this. Well it’s like what I saw while reading an article from The Daily Mail.

Shoes are a passion, a hobby, a personal statement. You can tell a lot about a girl from her shoes - her confidence, her style, how much comfort she is prepared to sacrifice for that fabulous pair of heels. If my house were on fire, after my children, my shoes would be the first thing I'd save.

By TESS STIMSON Daily Mail

A great pair of shoes, even a good pair of shoes, can lift your spirits and make you feel good about yourself. And that can go a long way further than that Prozac pill!

More importantly, good looking shoes can prevent you from injury. Most people, when they first see a pair of high heels being worn, usually the first comment I get, is how can you manage to walk in those things.

Same as anyone walking in Flip Flops. For example. I just heard from a friend of some one who gashed their head open, spilling blood and incurring a concussion, when they tripped on their Flips Flops and hit a cement wall. Cursed they be!

Sooooo….

Six inch heels can be no less dangerous. Someone said to me I can’t run in heels. Pish Posh, sure you can. Oh, you won’t pass Marion Jones, steroids notwithstanding, but you can shuffle along fairly well. Try running, or even stepping quickly in Flip Flops. You’ll be on the ground faster than one of Jay Leno’s jokes.

Yet, in a see of Flip Flops, running shoes and Marge Simpson’s Flops, a nice pair of heels really stands out and lends on air of sophistication, elegance and a hint of sexuality. The other day I was sitting in a bistro, sipping a cup of java, watching the sea of flip flops and running shoes walk by… yawn. When a statuesque lady walked into the shop wearing a pair of 5” heels. She seemed powerful and self assured. And well dressed.

And that’s all it takes.

Heelfully Yours
Gillian
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Shoes That Have Made My List for Ugly!

2006-08-13T22:43:00.000-06:00

I’ve resisted this, but I can’t hold back any longer. The Ugly Shoes Top Ten.

The following list is, in my opinion, the ugliest footwear a person can place upon their tootsies. There are some obvious choices, if you’ve followed my rants, and some I have never mentioned.

10. Loafers. More importantly loafers that mimics street wear. Loafers are and will always be for loafing. You loaf around the wet bar in your wood panel basement entertainment room. Or you loaf around your knick knacks vault. But you do not loaf around the night club in these. Why, I ask why, for the love of … why?

9. Furry Boots. These things started showing up at the raves, because some 16 year old snuck in and thought this would help her be funky, got into a rave or two and set a trend. Or, this was a manufactured trend. I’m not sure how this one happened, however, at the end of the night, these things just make you look fat. FAT!. No other way to describe it. Fatty-Fatty-Fat-fat!

8. Athletic sandals. Made for athletic endeavours, I can understand why some people confuse these things with regular street wear. For one thing, they never take off their track sweats to begin with. (Someone should invent a track pant skirt – Oops – too late!) However, these shoes have also been embraced by the Granola and Twig crowd, as a dressier version of their Birkenstocks, however, the main infraction – they combine these things with socks. Oh the humanity!

7. Rubber boots. These I have seen people wearing out to functions, shopping, and even to restaurants. Have they no shame. Have they no decent understanding that these boots were made for the purpose of walking through swamp land. These are made for grounds keepers and their ilk… not a night out on the town.

6. Birkenstocks. Praised as the orthopedic shoe of the future. Adopted by the granola and twig crowd. Many a peace march could not have taken place without the Birkenstocks. Most hippies deflected into the corporate world, after they discovered they had to make a living to pay for the VW bus payments, have held onto this footwear to keep them grounded. It reminds them of when they communed with the whales off the BC coast while Phish played on their cassette decks.

5. Clogs. I’ve heard it said people dance in these monstrosities. They are dangerously close to resembling the Earth shoes of the 1970’s, a shoe touted as a cure to those who had foot discomfort as it mimicked the natural way people walk on the sand on a beach. Until it was proven they caused more harm than good and actually tore your tendons to shreds. Beach, yeah fine. Try walking like your on a beach on concrete in these shoes for a period of time… not so good!

4. Marge Simpson shoes. Or more commonly known as ballet slippers or flats. These are shoes of last refuge. They are worn by those with no idea of taste. It leads one into wearing footwear numbers 3, 2 and 1. It’s a gateway shoe to footwear abuse.

3. Uggs. These things are close to being number one in ugliness. They make all women’s feet seem to resemble hoofs. Who concocted these things as footwear should be made to wear them day in and day out as they toil away in the oil fields of Siberia.

2. Flip Flops. This, as anyone knows, was my most hated form of footwear. But it has been surpassed by an even uglier shoe. However, by the sheer number of these flip flops being worn out there in the streets, it has a unique ugliness all to themselves. They were meant for the beach, and as beach wear, are unsurpassed. As formal wear, or even a shoe to go shopping in… I mean…really now! Only… only if all your other shoes perished in a fire.

1. Crocs. This is a recent entry as number one. In this part of the world, apparently, Mellonville had been spared this hideous form of footwear, but by mid-summer, they had shown up in all the stores and the garish colours (there is no pleasing colour ever chosen for this shoe) are to be had. They go beyond hideous into a dimension even String Theory can not fathom. For all that is sacred, forbid yourself from purchasing this footwear forged by Lucifer himself!

There you have it. My top ten of the ugliest footwear. But here’s a site that really keeps an eye on all this.

http://www.shoewawa.com/ugly_shoes/index.html

Make sure you have broadband DSL before hitting this site as there are loads of pictures of the ugliest shoes imaginable. This site also has a good run-down of the most beautiful as well.

But it makes me think. My top ten has all the same shoes that Shoewawa has on her listings. These are truly ugly shoes. Why, for the love of… why do most people wear them then?

It’s mind boggling and before I devolve into a treatise on the psychopathic nature of humanity to pathologically pick the ugliest shoes to soothe childhood trauma, I will resist.

Let’s just say. Stop it!. Take my list and weed out your closet!

Heelfully Yours
Gillian
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Sex and power of the Mighty High Heel Shoe!

2006-07-30T20:51:00.000-06:00

High heels evoke both sex and power. They're both coquettish and dominant at the same time. This is its essence… its allure.

I watched a special the other night where Chris Rock was talking about strippers and their collective decision to wear clear high heel platforms, as if there had been a convention and the choice of footwear had been put to a vote.

I laughed, thinking, hey how did that come about anyway?

No idea.

In socio-academic circles, this would be a clear collective Meme as Dawkins would point out. And it is! It happened of its own accord. But the underlying agreement had its roots in the miasma of ‘sex and power’.

Strippers and hookers, and well, teases too, know this implicitly. High heels convey two messages to the viewer: one of sex and the other of power – Simultaneously!!

This is the allure of the high heel.

When someone wears 6 inch heels and clicks down the sidewalk there are two things happening at the very same moment, thrown into the air for all to feel. One is the feeling of subservience, the attitude of submission to the heel and to the sex it implies. The wearer of such a set of shoes is telling all about her she likes sex, enjoys looking sexy, is promoting sex and is open to the idea of sex. While the other message is of dominance, of power, of intrigue and mystery, that the sex beheld in the high heel shoe is hers to command and you better do her bidding if you want to come anyway near it!

This is the root of the fear and mockery of high heel shoes and boots. The high heels intimidates all. It is fearful to the woman to wear such heels because she is afraid that she can not muster up to that level of sexiness, that she herself could not perform to a level of sex the shoe conveys. What happens if she isn’t good at sex or is afraid of sex. The high heel shoe becomes Kryptonite to her.

Meanwhile, men go through a similar but distinctly irrational thought process of anguish. What if he can’t match the sexiness of the wearer? What if he is challenged and can’t be fulfilling to that sexy shoe clad woman. What if he can’t please her? Or even can he be with a woman such as that?

So the natural reaction is to fear the high heel. Mock it, assign them to the tacky and the slut. Ahhh, but that’s wear the high heel lives and that is why strippers and hookers use this power. They understand its psychic power, its underlying mystery and the sexy hold it has on us. And it only gets sexier the deeper down in the sexual nightmare of perversity it sinks.

As I always say, "If I have to have super powers, I guess I would have to be a villian. They wear the best damend clothes!"

Bless the high heel shoe. It knows how to live!

Heelfully Yours
Gillian
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High Heels And Work... But of Course!

2006-07-24T12:18:00.000-06:00

Wearing high heels to work? As far as I can see it is a good thing.

Why not wear them? In many cases it’s the best way to train your feet and you will attract the eye and admiration of everyone as you wear elegant footwear.

Some jobs prevent you from wearing them? Some will say.

Really! Umm … do you mean waitresing for instance? Not so. Here’s an interesting piece from the Baltimore Sun about those who wear high heels.

Samantha Vu has no problems with tending bar in 5-inch heels at Lucille's in Power Plant Live.

"It's only difficult when you're standing in one place for a long time," Vu, 27, said while serving gazpacho to a customer one recent Saturday night. "Otherwise, if you keep moving around, you don't get tired at all."

Or how about in a massage therapy clinic?

Luz Marina Tovar is on her feet all day long.And her choice of footwear for work as a massage therapist in Lutherville? Flat and practical, right?
Guess again."For me, the high heel is more comfortable ..., and I feel more elegant," said Tovar, 48, who works regularly in 6-inch heels at La Clinicia. "I never get tired of the higher heels!"Tovar -- who moved to Lutherville from her native Bogota, Columbia, four years ago -- is among a number of Baltimore-area women who have made pointy-toed, 6-inch pumps and stilettos an integral part of their workplace attire..

And there are many more women who have adopted the high heel at work and consider even a 2” heel a flat shoe.

Trish MacDonald, a local actress and producer at Uffington Productions Inc. in Baltimore, said women move differently depending on the shoes they're wearing."A woman in a pump or high heel moves sensually," said MacDonald, a regular La Clinica pedicure customer. "But the same woman in flip-flops walks a little ... sloppy."

Again, as I have said before, wearing high heels, once practiced, can be as easy as wearing any other shoe. You will gain a new sense of balance and be able to walk confidently over any surface area. I mean, can one run in flip flops? No! I’ve seen it attempted so many times and invariably one or both flip flops shoot off into the air or are left behind in the feeble attempt to run.
Like this person says:

MacDonald said she believes women are vain about their shoes because attractive footwear is "a confirmation of your femininity. Image is very important to me."

And I think the vanity works in the opposite direction. Those who are wearing flats, or beatup runners, or even flip flops recognize the fact they have shoddy footwear and instead of running out to get better shoes… just mock those who do wear high heels.

So wear you heels to work and relish the joy of wearing them everywhere.

Heelfully Yours
Gillian
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High Heels Are Sexy Cool - Ask Adidas!

2006-07-16T18:46:00.000-06:00

There are three types of persons when it comes to shoes…

Those who wear high heels, those who do not wear them… and then there are those who follow every faddish shoe style except high heels.

Why only three… well it’s basically an Aristotelian attempt to categorize those who wear shoes and the impact high heels have had on our society. (Hope you’re no bored yet!)

However you categorize it though, it does break down into some distinct groups. There was a time when to look fashionable and chic, a woman had to wear a good pair of heels. However, the 60’s came along and we as a society emerged from Marilyn Monroe, Jane Masnfield and Barbara Stanwyck (even Bettie Page) who all wore gorgeous heels into the era of hippies and flower children and the age of the flat soles.

This followed quickly with the woman’s movement who identified the offending high heel as a male oppressor and a tool to objectify the female form. True that went on but it’s hardly the high heel’s fault: the high heel was just standing around looking sexy and got caught in the cross-fire.

But the high heel was clever and went underground, seeking the safety of the fetish crowd and covert fashionista’s in Europe. It would survive to live another day. By doing so, it also covered itself with another cloak of ambiguity… the dark world of fetishism.

The high heel was cool again. Why?

Because as even Gwen Stefani, Jean Paul Gauthier and Vivienne Westwood soon realized… the most innovative fashion designs, the one’s who wore clothing and shoes to their dangerous edges, were the fetish crowds… “My props to the fetish crowd”.

The high heel emerged even sexier and more sultry than if it had stayed a household fashion item… I mean, if you want suburbia to wear high heels on a daily basis - that is a quick way to kill a sexy cool.

Okay. Now I’m sounding all “Sex in the City” and that wasn’t what I was going for. But you hear what I’m saying?

So it was this running through my head when I came across and interesting website about Adidas Running Shoes and some videos they did… and lo’ and behold there is Jenna Jameson in one video wearing not running shoes, but white platform pumps with a one and half inch plat and what seems to be seven inch heels. No running shoes. Even Adidas knows when to use the high heel!

Check it:
http://www.r255g255b255.net

It was an eye opener.

So let the high heel breathe again and let’s hope to all who enjoy wearing heels that it remains the property of dangerous…

We can only hope that some Religious Zealot denounces the heels as the work of the devil… that would make it even more sexy cool!

Heelfully Yours
Gillian
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Why Are High Heels Considered Weird and Other Shoes Are Not?

2006-07-09T10:47:00.000-06:00

Oh when will it stop!

Recently, I was at a music festival here in Melonville and lo’ and behold, I actually saw some really nice footwear.

Some were wearing heels, and I even saw a Muslim women wearing an attractive pair of 3” heels which just goes to show you that even restrictive clothing religions can be somewhat skirted.

And several pairs of pumps plus even a couple of Goths wearing some very nice bootage. And all walked (I even saw someone running in heels) just fine thank you much with no discomfort.

However…

And there’s always a however when it comes to modern footwear.

There were more horrible flip flops everywhere. I’m afraid women can outdo men when it comes to slovenly attire. (eg The bedwear which is sometimes worn out to things such as music fests)

Yet there is a new form of footwear which must be stamped out!

It is the Dutch wooden shoe come plastic sandal.

Ugly… I can’t begin to describe how ugly they are. The only thing that equals it in my mind was the fad (from British Columbia I might add) of the women wearing steel toed work boots out to restaurants and nightclubs.

These are not much better.

They make women walk like they’re wearing scuba flippers and the image is a mound of plastic encasing the foot similar to someone in a foot cast.

They must be stamped out.

And they say high heels are weird? Give me a break…

Heelfully Yours
Gillian
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High Heels Will Make a Believer of You!

2006-07-03T18:28:00.000-06:00

Why do high heels cause so much commotion?

In this world of Goths, cyber-goths, Geek-chic, skater wear, gangsta apparel where guys wear the clothing of people who hold nothing but disdain for them . . . or trailer park fashions… or the fight club look…

Why do high heel shoes and boots still cause the most consternation among the populace? It behooves me.

In fact, wearing high heels shuld be way done the list of those who 'stick out' in the crowd, so as they say.

I was walking the other day and heard some comments about my 6” heels, so I glanced quickly, as I usually do not pay attention to the Old Navy crowd nor consider their opinions even relevant, and... Sure enough... they were wearing Old Navy attire... from head to (gasp!) foot!

The understood meaning of their comments (the under story for you writers out their) is they were fashionably normal and I was not. Yet… all three of them looked identical. (does not that seem odd, I ask?) I had not seen this petty display since high school (admission: I was rocker punk then) and the same idea that because what they were wearing was what they considered normal, then everyone else was not unless they donned the same clothing.

This childish attitude I though passed when I left being a teenager behind. However, there is this tendency in the world to force people to wear what they feel others should wear. It went on during the middle ages with the sumptuary laws of the 14th century where it was decreed that those of the lower castes could not wear what was worn by the nobility.

There are places still like that today, only because we’re soooo 21st century (ahem… Iran, I’m talking about you) where the government decrees that women can only wear certain types of clothes. This is not out of step or thinking with those who wear nothing but, and only, Old Navy clothing. Same thing, different screen door!

Oops! Sorry, this turned into a political tract … but you see my point?

So I guess stars like Nicole Kidman, Gwen Stefani, Halle Berry, Courtney Love… and many others, are not so fashionable (given the opinions of some Old Navy dressed pundits) given the fact they wear high heels on a daily basis. Yes, no one even considers them attractive or sexy… no way. But one secret ingredient to their sexy persona is the care and attention they give their footwear (or at least their people do)!

So I’ll continue to wear my extreme heels because I can. And I hold the opinion that those who can’t wear them will continue to mock those who do because that’s what they are reduced to doing! But men will always be attracted to those who wear high heel shoes and boots … and if you want to test the theory…go to a party wearing flats and then go to another wearing heels. The difference will make you a believer!

Heelfully Yours
Gillian
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Heels, High Heels and Pumps! Horray!

2006-06-26T10:07:00.000-06:00

Oh those sexy, sexy heels! More please!

Last week was a very good week … if you’re a heel watcher such as I am. Why?

Because through my daily strolls through the City of Blandness (The Big Stink) or as others call it – Melonville – there were heels a plenty to see. Some in particular took great care in how they dressed along with their heels.

One, for instance, had a long tight black skirt to go with her 3” pumps – yes, a modest height I do agree but at least the effort was there and the sensuous look she presented more than made up for the lack of heel.

It was a business look but very sexy as well and when she walked, she walked with a confidence and a inner knowledge that she looked damned good.

Another wore a higher black patent heel in wedge form. About 4” high. Along with her tight khaki skirt it was a nice way of wearing high heels without being to – how should I say – vampy!

Still others had their heels on. All wearing 4” heels and one who had dared to the giddy heights of 5” high heels. They were bluish sandals and although they did nothing for her overall appearance I smiled with delight to see the attempt.

Even older ladies had donned the pump and were strutting about with style.

One gets weeks like this… although not often enough, if you ask me.

So girls… slip on those heels and walk. Strut and allow your inner vampiness to exude outwards. What could happen. Compliments! Admiring stares! Looking sexy! I can’t see a downside to any of this!

Heelfully Yours
Gillian
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Stars without high heels... yuck!

2006-06-17T17:15:00.000-06:00

Oh those performers who go barefoot.

What makes them think they’re cool is beyond me . . . so there I was sitting, watching David Letterman and waiting with apprehension to see this new female singer that was all the rave.

Disappointed!

Not only was she a bad version of a cross between Tori Amos and Janis Joplin, and a consummate musical poser if I have ever seen one… she was on stage …

Barefoot!

And she thought she was being original. She emphasized her barefootedness by doing a few kicks in the air… so all us home viewers could see how original she was.

I was appalled. Yes, it’s so anti-diva to be on stage… on David Letterman no less… barefoot.

Yes… it shows how cool and hip and anti-mainstream you are.

But as a singer … as a Diva. Yuck!

I mean I’ve seen Gwen Stefani dance and jump around a stage in 4” platforms with a 9” heel without so much as a hesitation. That was sexy. Two kicks in the air with bare feet… yawn!

A singer that is not wearing heels… that isn’t wearing something sexy or alluring or provocative is saying more than being anti-mainstream and anti-fashion. She’s screaming to all... boring.

Now Gwen is always wearing sexy or interesting shoes even if she’s wearing blingish, fast and furious attire. She shows off her choice in footwear and gives her props to the fetish people.

That's a star!

Heelfully Yours
Gillian
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High heels turn heads ... they do!

2006-06-10T09:05:00.000-06:00

It’s amazing what effect high heel shoes have on men.

It can change your whole sexual appearance.

There I was sitting in a Subway shop in downtown Melonville, sitting with a Hypoglycemic sweat and about to dig into my turkey breast when I noticed there were several men milling about the front, as this shop doubles as a variety store, each guy getting another frosty from the machine.

Two rather attractive women stepped through the door. Both were very sexily dressed but one had on her feet… you guessed it… flip flops.

The second woman was wearing 4” heel sandals.

Which one was ogled by the men?!

Well… let’s say Miss Flip Flops lost. The guys hung around and teased each other and watched the woman in heels as she bought her purchase and tittered out the door… the men laughed in that way they have when they been teased by a gorgeous woman.

Now I ask you? Would you not enjoy a gaggle of men enjoying your looks and in their testosteronial way desire you?

Of course you would… it’s sexy to have that happen.

Only high heels can give you that awesome wiggle that says to the world… I enjoy my body.

So don those high heels and wiggle around while shopping. You’ll change the world.

Heelfully Yours
Gillian
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High Heels Wiggle Action

2006-06-03T10:19:00.000-06:00

Your buttocks should thank your high heels.

Why?

Because a high heel will provide a very bootilicious display while walking that only shoes with a decent heel height can provide.

The other day, while standing at the stop waiting for some sort of transportation to whisk me away to parts unknown (as bus drivers in Melonville tend to get lost a lot), I noticed a rather shapely, attractive woman pass me wearing 3” heels.

As she passed I noticed she was wearing tight, but well fitting jeans. And with each step I noticed her one butt cheek rise, and as the heel of her shoe hit the pavement - followed closely by the ball, the whole motion caused her butt cheek to rise and then drop with a quick snap. Only to be quickly repeated by the other hip.

It was marvelous to watch and behold.

Flats won’t give your booty this motion.

Flip Flops cause you to shuffle, like an arthritic geriatric patient looking for shuffleboard.

That’s what a high heel does. It sexes up everything. If you want to be sexy. Start with your footwear. It only goes up from there!

Heelfuly Yours
Gillian
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High Heels in the Movies. Yeah Baby!

2006-05-28T19:36:00.000-06:00

Why are high heels considered the footwear of the slut?

It seems that anyone who wears even the remotely interesting footwear is considered a slut or weirdo or tramp… depending on the type of shoe.

I ask you where would life be without the high heel?

What kind of intrigue would have shadowed poor Detective Marlow as he sat there swallowing another pass of the scotch bewteen his lips, wondering how his office got so smoky when the dame with fur stole and the gams up the whazoo entered through the door… in sensible, orthopedic cross-training walker shoes. You know the ones… with no heel.

What would the effect be like.

Well … first off. No sex appeal. None.

Zippo, doll-face.

There’s so much symbolism packed into each stiletto it’s hard to sort it all out. Mystery, danger, lust, un-attainability, perversion, the upper-crust, trouble, wealth, unbridled passion, of hidden parties, connections, seduction and of course sex appeal.

The scene would have been, I dare say … flat!

(Stop throwing things at me!)

However, the sensible shoe is the domain of the sexually repressed, the dull, the timid, the pragmatic, the lonely and of course, no sex appeal.

What would the red carpet be like if all the stars wore flats. Or the glamour scenes in movies when the star walks into the crowded restaurant, and all eyes turn to her as she descends the stairs. Would the scene have the same sex appeal if she was wearing flip flops!

So if you want to become sexy and alluring overnight… start wearing the high heels. Yes, people will look. That’s the idea.

Heelfully Yours
Gillian
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Oh Those Shiny Red Boots!

2006-05-20T14:58:00.000-06:00

I saw something preposterous this morning…

While riding our illustrious and ponderous transit system, two lads got on the bus, typical ner’do’wells (dirty t-shirts, requisite shaved-to-scalp haircuts, running shoes, pants that hang barely off their pitiful butts), and took seats in front of me.

The bus sat at the downtown stop as I believe the driver was having a brain aneurysm, and while we collected riders waited for this to pass, I spotted a gothy type girl wearing bright, shiny boots with a really decent heel – probably 4” heels.

So did these teenagers.

And they stared at this person as she walked by . . . not staring in admiration or lust . . . but staring as if boogers were dripping from her head. In short, they thought she was odd, weird, strange. They had a judgmental stare.

Likewise I was staring at them . . . as if boogers were dripping from there heads.

One thing first. I despise judgmental people ( so any churchies who bring fire and brimstone down on those who think differently should go elsewhere). And these two judgmental clowns were of the second order… judging anyone who dared to be slightly different as odd, weird, strange.

I shook my head and held the bridge of my nose with pinched fingers clearly telegraphing my distaste of these human excuses for skin.

There’s an old Zen saying, “Never judge another person’s morals as then your own come into question”. Obviously these two had not heard of this . . . but then they obviously had not heard of that other modern invention – soap!.

So I admired this gothy girl with her very bright, fetishy boots walking the downtown in morning sunshine.

Now remember, I inhabit a provincial town that can be somewhat classified as backwoods. Backwoods in attitude! Although they are building the countries largest Wal-mart to attract more trailer trash. Melonville I call it.

I had remarked the other day that something other cities had – had just popped up in Melonville meaning we’re only 10 years out-of-date instead of the usual 15.

So I hope I see more of these boots on more and more people wearing them. And less of these judgmental goons. Then I can upgrade as being five years.

Heelfully Yours
gillian
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Time and Place For High Heels - All The Time!

2006-05-17T21:46:00.000-06:00

I’m often asked, what is the best heel height to wear?

Well… 6” high heels all the time… but that’s just me.

So here goes:

For high heels that are 1” in height. Please. That is not a heel … it’s something stuck to your shoe.

Heels that have a 2” heel – good for visiting ultra orthodox religious functions, otherwise, not on your life.

In situations where you may have to end up walking a great distance, then 3” heels can be called upon to fulfill their role. Remember what they say on the show 6Teen – shoes made for walking are not that pretty.

Now 3" high heels will feel funny after wearing anything higher. In fact, they may even feel as if you are wearing flats. That is how dramatically flat they feel if you have been wearing the 6” heels for awhile.

Now to the 4” heels. Perfect for work, shopping, and slightly dignified functions. They’ll seem elegant and just a little daring. They’ll turn heads and admiring looks. The trick with 4 “ high heels is to have as many pumps and stilettos as possible, because it will become your 'go to' style – and they lend elegance to your look and will work with just about any outfit – including jeans.

Not only that, 4” heels have that daring allure to them. Just high enough to be above the ordinary but not yet into the stratosphere of being fetish like.

Speaking of fetish, we now turn to the 5” heel. This is the demarcation that begins the fetish footwear lifestyle. They can still be worn to work and out to social functions that lean to the conservative. If you wear stilettos or pumps at this heel height, well, most people can not tell the difference between 4” heels and those that are 5”. Many seem to think anything above a flat shoe is fetish.

Yet pumps and stilettos that are 4 inches high are still easy to wear and are not that hard to maintain balance. You can step ever so lightly done the street (even over the passed out drunks)and if a shoe sale is mentioned – you can even run to it.

On to 5” heels. Now we are in true fetish territory. And yet . . . to all but the most discerning eye, 5” heels do not look all that dissimilar from 4” heels. (I’ve read that 4 and half inch heels are almost impossible to walk in – why? – no idea – but if I have a choice between 4 and half and 5” heels . . . well it’s a no brainer)

If you plan to waitress all day . . . I wouldn’t recommend the 5” heels, although, I know of those (mainly dancers) who wear 5 and 6” heels for hours on end without sitting.

I believe a good sense of balance is the trait that all successful high heel wearers have. I think most who hate wearing heels are those who have some trouble with their balance. And that is the hidden reason they hate wearing heels - no balance.

Ahhh. . . the 6” heel. That heavenly heel . . . the true fetish heel. All shoes and boots that have a 6” heel which adorns it - is always gorgeous. You can never have enough of these babys … that’s what I’m saying.

Why? The heels are so tall. You need real skill and practice to wear these tools of fetish. They’re sexy and erotic. The ooze fetish. Yet they can still be worn out and about. In fact, I secretly like the fact 6” heels are worn in everyday situations.

Then there are ballet heels – a true fetish dream. These take real skill and loads and loads of practice to master. But once you have the knack of it – they can be a real kick to wear. As for wearing out in normal everyday places… well a person can dream.

So there you have it. A very brief look at when to where a high heel. Now as for boot…

Heelfully Yours
Gillian
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Score: Flip Flops Zero - 5" High Heels One

2006-05-12T21:30:00.000-06:00

There I was . . . riding our notorious public transit, trying to pretend the Bugatti was in shop waiting for a part from some exotic warehouse in Milan, when I saw her.

I’ve seen her quite a bit on this route.

She lives in my best friend’s neighbourhood. And she was wearing pink, 5” shoes. My heart went out to her.

The bus came to where I had to get off and she also disembarks at the same stop. Along with some others, she deftly trots out the door and I had assumed she would follow the concrete sidewalk around the corner and avoid the grassy knoll the others were taking advantage off to cheat the big corner.

She did not.

She expertly and without a flinch stepped through the grass, damp from a small misty rain in the morning, and emerged onto the sidewalk ahead of me and stepping out quite nicely thank you very much.

No trouble walking there.

The kicker is this: a girl wearing flip flops tripped in the grass and slid to the ground. I guy helped her up, a little red faced, as the flip flops caused the accident. The girl in the 5” heels walking across the grass. No problem.

I even saw a little smile pass along my cohort’s face as she glanced at me. We shared a knowing look.

It matters not, if your heels are 6” high or flat as pancake. If you can’t walk properly – you fall. Cavemen knew this – that’s why they never wore flip flops!

Okay . . . that’s a stretch . . . I know. There was no distribution rights back then for their area.

But it just goes to show. High heel shoes do not necessarily cause you to walk funny.

And they are so elegant and classy. Ahhh, you say, why do hookers and exotic dancers wear them? Are they classy?

In their way . . . they are. If you want to titillate a crowd and bring admiring eyes to yourself, well, Birkenstocks just are not going to do the trick. (Unless you have a Birkenstock fetish which we will not discuss here and frankly – Yuck!)

High heel shoes and boots attract attention to the leg, your thighs are straightened out and the leg is lengthened. These are facts. (Hey I’ve read the whole Wikipedia entry on this!) But more importantly, it’s very sexy for the one doing the wearing. Once mastered, you feel confident and sexy. The shoes help the rest of you feel sexy and this eminates from you as you wear them.

So if you feel down and a little bloated – wear the high heels. They’ll make you feel better about yourself.

Oh, and . . . if you’re wearing flips flops . . . do be careful crossing slippery grass.

Heelfully Yours
Gillian
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Foot Specialists Are Evil Goons of the Sensible Shoe Cartel!

2006-05-07T22:42:00.000-06:00

Some people can’t leave sleeping horses lie. Especially if they’re foot specialists.

Note the time and what you’re doing as you will hear it here first. Yes, there is a conspiracy. The real descendents of the Knights Templar working with secret assassins and DaVinci Code specialists are – foot specialists.

Podiatrists.

I know because I was accosted by one of their agents provocateurs the other day while walking with Mia Magenta as we strolled to our intended destination. We were stopped in a parking lot – not a poorly lit, empty one as in All The President’s Men – because this is Melonville afterall folks.

And she chastised my friend for not wearing shoes, as she was walking barefoot, enjoying the feel of the ground, the dirt and the grass beneath her feet. And this foot specialist went on to inform her of all the dangers and damage she was doing to her feet.

My my, are they not the same ones who tell us not to wear high heel shoes as well. Now you have to wear shoes which leads me to think the pseudo-doctors are just working in league with the cartel made up of the running and sensible shoe manufacturers.

They show how little they know about feet. Like the foot specialist telling all and sundry on CNN to wear high heels only on special occasions. Could there BE any more damaging advice to give?

Would you tell a skier not to practice on the slopes and only wear the skis during the race only? No. Is there chance of injury… yes. But less so if you have trained. And so it is with high heels. You have to wear them and train in them in anything above an inch.

I have seen more injuries from people wearing the incorrect running shoes then high heels and the foot specialist has no answer other than buying more expensive shoes and . . . more importantly . . . see them as regularly as possible.

Hence the sinister motives of the foot specialist – remember they have cottages and motor boats to support.

So the day that people should not walk around without shoes is equated to wearing 6” high heels has arrived. Oh but I guess Flip Flops are fine. How did people over all these millennia get by without shoes? I wonder. . .

Wear your heels and practice the art of the high heel. And ignore the foot specialists . . .or listen to them at your peril.

Heelfully Yours
Gillian
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Why does CNN hate high heel shoes?

2006-05-04T20:57:00.000-06:00

It must be sweeps week on television again. How can I tell? The health shows pull out the old chestnut about how high-heels damage your feet and wreck your back.

It’s good television. It addresses something every viewer can relate to – the agony of da feat. And the main culprit, public enemy number one, the big enchilada - the evil high heel shoe.

And like Osama, no one can find the guy who makes everyone wear them and makes everyone find them so sexy. Where is that guy?

I watched as American Morning on CNN trounced all over the high heel shoe, as medical pundits (usually doctors who make a ton of money off curing feet aliments) talk about how the high heel damages. The way they speak, you’d swear the makers of high heels are tobacconists!

Their not!

And CNN is doing us this great service informing us to wear sensible shoes and burn the high heels. In other words, wear granny flats. In fact, I’m pretty darn sure the people backing these so-called foot studies that denounce high heels are well funded, not by big oil or tobacco, but the other one – running shoe companies.

People wearing attractive and sexy high heels are not likely to buy as many running shoes. A closet full of high heels stilettos and pumps . . . or running shoes. (I’m sure every rapper on both coasts would drool over the latter)

However, this is all mindless dribble.

Why? Because the high heel isn’t going anywhere because they’re too damn sexy. They make you feel sexy. People adore you in high heels. Admire even.

As for running shoes. Same as the next one.

But the most appalling thing I heard by these shoe experts was this. Wear high heels on special occasions only. Like a night out on the town. Well.. anyone who has worn high heels would laugh at that absurdity. Not because the shoes are sexy but because you just can’t slip on a pair of 4” heels and dance the night away. You have to practice. You have to train. And this training is the thing that will prevent ankle twists and alleviate leg and back pain as your muscles are not wrenched into unfamiliar territories.

Experts my foot!

Heelfully Yours
Gillian
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Formulaic High Heels -Eureka!

2006-04-30T21:31:00.000-06:00

It’s comforting to know that science is coming to the aid of high heels. Hurray for them!

No longer must devotees of the high heel suffer agonizing hours in a shoe store trying on pair after pair of delicious shoes. What a waste of time… we could be doing other things like giving ourselves a self tax audit… or ironing.

Who wants to look at all the pretty shoes!

Alas, scientists at the Institute of Physics (London, UK) have come up with a formula. To properly determine the maximum height of heel one can wear without incident.

It is:

h = Q•(12+3s /8)

h is the maximum height of the heel (in cm)Q is a sociological factor and has a value between 0 and 1 (see below to work this out)S is the shoe size (UK ladies sizes). This factor makes sure that the base of support is just good enough for an experienced and sober, high-heel wearer not to fall over.

The variables are:

p – the probability that wearing the shoes will help you 'pull' (in a range from 0 to 1, where 1 is pwhooar and 0 is stick to carpet slippers). If the shoes are a turn-off, there's no point wearing them.

y – the number of years experience you have in wearing high heels. As you become more adept, you can wear a higher heel. Beginners should take it easy.

L – the cost of the shoes, in pounds. Clearly, if the shoe is particularly expensive, you can put up with a higher heel.

t – the time since the shoe was the height of fashion, in months (0 = it's the 'in thing' right now!). One has to suffer for one's art, and if the shoes are terribly fashionable, you should be prepared to put up with a little pain.

A – units of alcohol consumed. If you're planning on drinking, be careful to give yourself a little leeway for reduced coordination

http://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2004-03/iop-sch031904.php

The article goes on to say, “Essentially this part of the formula explains what women have always known – that you don't buy shoes just because they are comfortable, you can afford them and they look good – many other variables come into play" – quotes Dr. Stevenson.

Now would someone buy shoes just because they look good, they are comfortable and can be afforded. Oh yes, that’s what is on the mind of every stiletto purchaser as they saunter through their favourite shoe store front doors.

Now all we have to do is hand them a piece of paper with our formula and they can trot out the latest fashion from Blah & Boring located in Beigeville.

The point of this little formula was rather tongue in cheek, however, it leads one to believe that all this shoe fetish stuff is nothing but hooey.

Au contraire, mes amis. Once one is trapped in the clutches of shoe fetish, there is no escape. Formula or no formula. It is a passion. I remember when I tried on my first pair of 5" inch heels... I was beside myself. The first steps were like heaven. I was finally home.

Ps. I saw a some friends of mine downtown today, and one friend, well she was wearing a very tight black PVC skirt with corset-like lacing along with some delicious boots. Ahhh … if onlymore would …

Heelfully Yours
Gillian
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Walking In High Heel Stilettos - It's More Fun Than You Think

2006-04-28T22:07:00.000-06:00

How does one walk in super high heels? Ahhhh . . . the eternal question, usually posed by those who are wearing dead flat shoes.

The one thing I’ve discovered is everyone has their one way of walking in them – their own gate and cadence. To each their own
. . .

Some walk by placing each foot directly in front of the other. This is a sexy, elegant walk as it causes the hips to sway and the legs to sensuously arc slightly as the shoe travels from behind to the front.

Others like to goose step in them, throwing the heel outwards -then placing the heel, then the toes downward, kicking the air slightly as they go.

Still others stomp . . . but we won’t get into that.

I’ve seen the glide step, or the pony prancing which was all the rage with the models on the runways, where you pick up the heel and stab it downwards much as a pony does when stepping out. (I can’t tell you how much I hated that look, and for whatever reason that caught on, I do not know, but it seems to have passed)

Then there are those who walk like football players in them. (Very popular around Melonville here) and must be brutal on the feet and ankles. Not to mention the longevity of the shoes themselves.

Practiced and elegant walkers in high heels, stilettos and pumps combine most of the established walking style: gliding, swaying and goose steping until they have a style of their very own. The act of walking then becomes second nature and no thought or obstacle even remotely bothers them . . . dodging and weaving . . . and I dare say even running in the precarious heels.

And if you think running is out of the question, you did not see the Japanese game show where they lined up around eight participants on a running track, all wearing some degree of heel, some only a couple of inches, others taller and in platforms. And the gun was fired and off they ran . . . sprinting down the track in heels.

Ironically, the only one who fell and injured herself was the one wearing running shoes, the one who was supposed to prove the point about high heels.

It just goes to show you what my grandmother used to say . . . If you are going to be stubborn and obstinate – then you better be damn right.

So wear the high heels at any time and anywhere. At first, it will be tricky. There will be problem areas and you may have to navigate with caution. But eventually, you’ll become so skilled in high-heels, you’ll put the contortionists and the acrobats on stilts at the Cirque du Soliel to shame.

Heelfully Yours
Gillian
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High Heels - All The Time, Any Place!

2006-04-26T20:15:00.000-06:00

I just read an interesting forum thread talking about the long time affects from wearing high heels extensively. That after a given time your leg tendons shrink and you are locked into wearing high heels the rest of your life.

Heaven forefend!

Mind you, deftly stepping out in 6” heels when you’re 75 years old might be tricky and perhaps not advisable, this is true.

However, this never has to happen if you take your breaks in the heels. Meaning, get out there and run a few blocks in joggers. It will do you’re legs good and your heart too!

Aside from the long term health benefits, other posters contributed by saying things like who would show up at a little league game wearing stilettos. I mean holy sacrilege. Okay. Hang on here… I have to stop foaming at the mouth.

Now this was a high heel shoes forum discussing fetish footwear and ultra high heels and there were posts from some misguided and delusional posters decrying the wearing of the stiletto above 4” unless a night out on the town is in order. I had to keep checking to see if I had accidently wandered into the Gerry Falwell website by mistake.

Again … for shame!

What is this lunacy? Of course you can wear 5” and 6” heels to a little league game, but one has to think, style, wardrobe, culture… yeah culture baby!

You don’t wear the pumps… you wear the boots with a 5” heel. With a longish skirt or loose fitting pants or with capris. You have to coordinate or die!

Or sandal-plats or wedge heels with a significant heel - to the little league park.

No one would wear a slinky evening affair to the park – why would anyone wear evening wear stilettos?

Is there no common sense left in this world? Do I have to dress this shaggy little planet? It’s still called Earth, right … I have had my head in the cyber-world for awhile now, so it’s best to check.

High heels can be worn everywhere and anywhere at any time. Except perhaps if you’re scuba diving… and I have prototype high heel flippers in the works. (Patent Pending). So watch out Seaworld!

Heelfully Yours
Gillian
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Talk-Shows Seem To Hate High Heels!

2006-04-25T19:56:00.000-06:00

I need to find out how one becomes a camera operator on a talk-show.

Why?

Because whenever a star comes out wearing super sexy, fantabulous high heel shoes, as they walk across the stage to take a seat and begin to converse with the host, the camera operator invariably cuts them off at the knees.

Or if they are in a particular temperamental and disturbing mood… will cut the image of just above the ankles.

There are few free joys in the world, and seeing celebrities in their heels is one of them. Mind you I don’t sit with bated breathe and drooling, quivering lips to see a brief glimpse of celebrities heels… that guy lives down the hall.

I am more curious and pleasantly surprised by the style and type of heel each celebrity wears. And some of these shoes cost a fortune. More than some small countires entire GDP for the year, kinda fortune.

So if I was a celebrity who shelled out serious platinum bars for a pair of Manolo’s only for the grips and gaffers to see them … well I’d be pissed.

I can visulize the star in the hotel room, walking in the heels, making sure they fit and are comfortable to avoid that awkward step before sitting in the chair … and thinking of the heel training they have done so they can glide across the stage floor as elegantly as possible – only to have some goof-ball camera operator chunk the shot.

It would get by bloomers in a knot!

I mean do these stars show up in Birkenstocks?? (Shudder… gasping for air)

By no means… they have careers to consider.

Therefore, I appeal to all that is good and human in these talk-show hosts to plead with these camera operators to widen the shot just a titch (you know what a titch is) and include the celebrities footwear in their glory walk to the interview chair.

You’re ratings would go up… I know the guy down the hall would start tuning in again!

Heelfully Yours
Gillian
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High Heels - It's All In the Arch!

2006-04-24T16:31:00.000-06:00

What causes us to lust after the high heel?

They are undeniably sexy… true.

But they hurt the feet and the legs and cause back problems, it is complained. True . . . they do. But so do running shoes and flats … even Flips Flops . . . if worn incorrectly, or you have a bad fit.

The culprit. The arch.

Badly fitted shoes kill that arch support. I’ve seen women who have incredible foot problems who have never worn a heel over and inch, and that was by mistake when they didn’t realize they were wearing a Cuban Heel.

Oh the humanity!

A properly supported arch is sooo important regardless of the heel height. A six inch heel with a high arch that supports the curvature of the foot is best. A low arch will cause the damage, but more importantly, a poorly fitted, incorrectly matched arch does the most damage. At 6” or 1”, the result is the same.

In conjunction with this is the toe-box. One should always wear high heels that give generous room in the toe box. A good discussion on this can be found at:

http://www.medianet.pl/~andrew/shoes/comfy_heels.htm

Personally, I think training is the proper way. If you constantly wear Flip Flops, you’re feet will spread out until you look like a Hobbit from the Shire. And who wants to see that on the dance floor (Sorry Frodo…).

As I’ve said, high heel stilettos are not for everyone. Unfortunately, in Melonville, the ones wearing them are far too often those who shouldn’t, and I get misty eyed when I see perfectly shaped legs come to an abrupt stop in Flops. It kills the curvature of the calf, which is such a big bonus to wearing the heel.

But all that doesn’t matter.

The high heel is elegant, provocative, sexy, signaling, sensuous, and gives one a tingly feeling. Can this be bad?

Absolutely not!

Heelfully Yours.
Gillian
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High Heels - Blessed Are Those Who Wear Thy Heels!

2006-04-21T20:42:00.000-06:00

Today, while poking around the internet, looking for tidbits of information and delight, I stumbled upon something that was both horrifying and compelling. And in weird sort of way, actually helps my crusade for high heels.

It was an article about the way woman dress provocatively, and by doing so, become sinners in the eyes of God.

Oh, baby . . . that’s what I’m talking about. Yeah!

In fact, in a sense of backfiring of biblical proportions, the writer’s emphasis on how sexy a woman dresses leads men into temptation (never mind any girl on girl), and I quote:

Christian woman, do you ever dress like a prostitute? You may not intend to do so, but if your clothes draw a man's attention to your body, then you are guilty of this wickedness. And you are an accomplice in the destruction of men's souls, even if you don't sleep with them. If you think prostitutes wear five-inch stiletto heels, fishnet hose, very short black leather skirts, and very tight, bright red sweaters, you prove ignorance of this subject!

Ohhh … baby! Pardon me while I sprinkle some cold chardonnay on my sweating, quivering brow. The whole article in its decrying of the way woman dress and the shameful acts that woman cause by donning clothes and slipping on shoes is ... Well… I have to say … it’s Hot baby … HOT!

I mean… this article read like a hot sexy erotic novel from Blue Moon books. Take this paragraph … please:

High heels were not invented for comfort, but to alter the shape of the calves and the movement of the hips while walking. A mincing walk is a wanton walk (Is 3:16). Sleeveless dresses, sandals with straps, lace and gauze overlays, ankle bracelets, and many other items should concern the consciences of women striving for public modesty.

Oh public modesty… oooohhh … it’s never been so modest … and sooo large!

But here’s the thing. These scriptures were written thousands of years ago by scores of men and rewritten several times over by men, lonely, desperate men, who had entered monasteries so they could eat. They lusted. They dreamed… and they hated themselves for it.

And many a year later, we have modern day purists trying to interpret ancient texts, out of context, to fit their narrow little world view I call “Fear of Sexuality” or more importantly “Fear of Life”.

I mean the last thing a Christian Purist will do is read the whole bible, cover to cover. Because by jiminy… look at all the sex in there. Oh the begetting! And if a wife couldn’t begat… then another woman was brought in to begat. They tend to only read the sections that bolster their own personal Biblical view.

So, there it is. Keep wearing those high-heels. I mean can there be anything sexier. This article virtually says there is nothing hotter!

By the by, if you’re curious, the whole article is listed here. But I caution you; you’ll either laugh you head off or get really aroused. But the last thing you’ll become is a non-sinner.

http://www.letgodbetrue.com/proverbs/07_10.htm

Oh and the last thing a Christian will do, at least a purist, is turn the other cheek. It is the one tenet of the Bible that sticks in their craw.

Heelfuly Yours
Gillian
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How Well Shod Are You?

2006-04-20T20:57:00.000-06:00

To be well shod.

I believe the origins of this phrase has something to do with horses – but no matter, it speaks well of high heels as well, in a peculiar way.

As I walked through Melonville today, a shiny warm day, I saw a few brave souls wearing heels, mainly 3”affairs… but at least they were heels. Most were wearing the dreaded, horrific Flip Flops.

And I started to wonder why the sexy high-heel is so regarded as ‘freakish’. It doesn’t make any sense. Why? Because everyone secretly lusts after them.

To wear high-heels (let’s make it perfectly, clear high-heels are 4 inches and up) makes you very aware of the very act of walking. They make you feel sexy. This will in turn make you look sexy.

Do you disagree.

Well, there are very few exotic dancers who wear flat shoes. And if they do, they will go broke. Any dancer will quickly determine the way to increase income is to learn how to walk in heels. Because no matter how often a person decries and scoffs at the high heel, they are most often attracted to them.

The high-heel is alluring and sensuous. The wearer is saying, I like to look and feel sexy.

High heel boots only transfer up the leg what the heels start, wrapping the legs in a provocative sleeve of leather, shifting the focus away from sexy to sexy power.

So, in a way I’m happy not everyone wears high-heels. It’s always refreshing and tantalizing when you happen to see someone IS wearing them and you feel a kindred spirit and attachment that is signaled between the wearers.

Break away from the bland, the blah, the ordinary and the conformity. Don a pair of 5” pumps and show of your legs. In my opinion, you will definitely be well-shod.

Heelfully Yours
Gillian
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Alas... 5" Heels Spotted Downtown. Joy!

2006-04-18T19:25:00.000-06:00

Well… this little burg can surprise me every once in awhile.

It was a lovely day here in the naked city. The big smog. Warm and spring-like… we have almost forgotten the motorcycle gang killings and settled into waiting for the smog to descend upon us.

But this also means summer temperatures and away go the boots and shoes and out comes the dreaded Flip Flops.

Not today … not today.

I walked into our Library-slash-downtown mall and there, in the hallway, a lovely Latino girl wearing white 5” pumps. I was beside myself with glee. Finally, some other kindred spirit wearing really sexy heels.

And she was ever so gorgeous.

They were being worn to be seen, no long pants, no long skirt. They were to be enjoyed. She walked well in them too. No stutter steps… no pausing to re-capture balance.

It was such a pleasure to see and behold.

But alas… summer beckons… it bears down on us. And the hideous footwear of rich students acting impoverished and the Top Ten People. (In case you do not know the term Top Ten People, it was coined many a year ago to refer to office workers who only saw top ten films, read top ten books, listened to top ten music, go to top ten vacation spots) They are horrible people.

With summer comes flats. I am bracing myself. Gently easing myself into this period of no heels and no boots. However, with luck, there will be more kindred spirits walking the sidewalks of our fair city, proudly strutting in their 5” heels.

I can only hope and dream … and wait, to see if real shoes return.

Heelfully Yours
Gillian
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Who Should Wear Super High Heels?

2006-04-17T22:09:00.000-06:00

Of course my motto is – High-Heels at All Times.

However…

There are times when they should not be worn. Or more importantly, who should not wear them. I don’t know if I could stand seeing Martha Stewart in 5” heels… wait… scratch that… on second thought, that’s kinda hot… I mean when you think about it.

How about Rosanne Barr… Well, apart from the sheer hydraulics and engineering required for such an endeavor, I think the money spent on that quest would be better directed to finding a cure for AIDS or sending a live mission to Mars.

The thought of Rosanne in 5”heels… nope. Nothing.

And that brings me to my point. It takes some doing to not seem hot and sexy in high heels. You have to bring some sort of ugly to the package to not bring it out. They can make anyone look sexy.

Condaleeza Rice in black 5” pumps as she orders some nation obliterated by bunker-busters. Yes… hot!

However, Janet Reno… it can’t be helped, she can’t pull it off. There’s just something about her in heels that can not be imagined… or imagined in a bad way.

But do not despair if you feel heels are a hindrance rather than a help. They can be a sexy start. And if you wear heels and get comfortable wearing them, in no time at all, the sexiness of the heels will travel up your legs and transform the rest of you.

So starting with some really nice heels is the beginning of a new you. Chuck away those self-help books, they never address the power of the high heel. Never! Buy a pair of black 4” pumps and voila, the rest of your wardrobe will change to conform to the heels. It’s true.

And before you know… you will be the sexiest person alive!

Heelfully Yours
Gillian
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Save Us From the Evil Flop Flops!

2006-04-12T16:39:00.000-06:00

Flip Flops. . . in short . . . are not shoes. They are so far from being shoes they may as well be Alien wear.

But they cover the bottom of your feet, does that not classify it as street wear? you say.

No!

It’s beachwear. . . something to keep your tender tootsies from being fried silly by the hot sand at the beach. Or the even hotter cement in your backyard pool area. But they are not designed to wear to a club or to the mall.

You would not see six inch heel pumps being worn to the beach. Impracticable beyond measure (although you will see high heels if a beer commercial is being filmed).

Yet, when I go out to clubs, I see the scourge of my existence. Flip Flops… on the dance floor! The horror! The sacrilege! Is nothing sacred anymore?

Although, it might be the city I live in. It’s a medium sized city with an unhealthy obsession with anything University and was once called the City of Fads. (Oh this city used to a sea of acid wash) However, most people, in a city where the studentia almost outnumber the residents, seem to dress like every day is laundry day!

Hence the preponderance of Flip Flops as the number one choice of footwear. Even in the dead of winter. There could be three feet of snow and a wind-chill that puts a shiver into Polar Bears, yet there you see them . . . the Flip Flops!

They have their role. They have their place in society. But as a formal or even a casual shoe choice? Heaven forefend.

But okay, I live with this ignominy. Because I live for the night life, I love to Boogie. And the dance floor is sacred. Yet to see anyone out on the town painting it whatever shade they like wearing high heels, or even just sexy footwear . . is such a rarity these days.

So I ask, for the sake of all that is sacred and Holy. . . leave the Flip Flops in the beach bag where they belong.

I beseech you!

Heelfully Yours
Gillian

Why Men Should Wear High-Heels!

2006-04-11T20:16:00.000-06:00

There are many reasons why men don’t wear high heels. Yet, there are just as many compelling reasons for men to don the infamous stiletto and strut about. If history serves, men wore high heels before the fairer sex decided to include them in their fashion oeuvre.

Height: the most obvious reason, high-heels give men added height. And this should help those men who are somewhat height disadvantaged to match their dates who may be wearing 5 inch stilettos. And to intimidate underlings at your place of employ!

Bar fights: men would not enter into any agreements of fisticuffs (as much) if wearing a pair of stilettos. That whole balance thing is different in a pair. Conversely, if you do find yourself in the midst of bar brawl, having six inch daggers handy on your feet can come to use. Come on… you’ve all seen CSI!

Girls: the more a man stretches beyond the confines of narrowly designed social constructs for the male image, the more a woman is inclined to imagine those men who wander outside the lines and what they could mean in bed. A man who knows the joy and the heartache of wearing heels, may be more user friendly in the sack.

Exercise: high heels make you sweat. Having to charge up a flight of stairs in those precarious instruments of delight can take your breath away. And the amount of concentration and planning to transverse a flight of stairs in the stilettos can help with exercising the ol’ grey matter- to boot.

Compromising: If you And your lady friend are both wearing heels, then you will have the same walking gate. No more having to wait for her to titter up those stairs because you would be too!

And lastly, the appeal to that last vestige of testosterone, wearing high heels is an extreme sport.

Enjoy

Mia Magenta

2006-04-10T22:16:00.000-06:00

Here is one of the images from our site. The model is Mia Magenta... and she wants us to be kind to robots... but not fear them... anyway, love her shoes!

These ones are new and importantly to me. . . they're shiny! Shiiiinnnyyyy!

Gillian

Can Wearing High Heels Damage Your Body?

2006-04-10T19:42:00.000-06:00

You all have heard it. High heels will ruin your knees, will ruin your feet and cause all sorts of back pain.

It's true!

But so does playing football, or skiing, or even jogging. Yet I do not hear a hue and cry about how everyone should stop playing sports because there's a chance you will suffer some bodily damage.

Life happens... deal with it.

That's what we do as humans on this planet. When early Hunter-Gatherers roamed early Europe, you did not hear the tribes Healer lecture the Tribal elders about how hunting and gathering would wreck your knees and cause back pain. They just went out and hunted and gathered and sometimes they got walked all over by a rampaging horde of Elk!

Life happens... deal with it.

And so it is with the wearing of high heels. It's true for some people, they develop back pain and sore knees. A friend of mine is right now in that predicament and can no longer tolerate heels and now looks admiringly at Doc Martens... the flat, flat workboot of Punks and Goths.

But others do not succumb to the effects of high heel wearing. For some, the higher heel has made their legs stronger and their balance almost perfect. They are able to deftly navigate a sidewalk littered with baby-buggies, beggars, churchies begging for your soul and steel venting grates, the small squarish holes a maw to which to swallow a stiletto, without so much of a grunt!

So the decrying of high heels as an unhealthy footwear choice is really a matter of taste. If you live in a city, such as mine, where most of the women walk like football players, and dress like they are part of a drunken angry mob, high heels are always associated with being a tramp. While in other more sophistcated cities the wearing of high heels is fashionable and trendy - it all depends on outlook.

Are you trendy enough to wear high heels? Are you confident enough? Are you able to take the precautions to wear them... by training to wear them, exercising your high heel ability before going to the wedding in heels for the first time since Prom. Leg lifts! Stretching! Deep knee bends. These are all necessary to wear heels... and then the practice of wearing them.

If gangstas can learn to walk in $5,000 Nikes with the shoe laces untied... then women can learn to walk in the infinitely safer high heel when compared.

And not only that... you can watch with bemusement as cars crash into other said vehicles while the drivers try to ctach a glimpse of your well turned and high heeled legs!

Thanks
Gillian

Welcome to The Fetish Lair Blog

2006-04-09T20:12:00.000-06:00

Hello...

Welcome to our first posting in out blog about fetish footwear. Here we'll talk and discuss about the world of high heel shoes and boots - super sexy ones - fetish ones and anything we think is cool about the art of wearing extreme heels.

What sort of heels? Anything starting at four inches and upwards... even ballet heels. Platforms are included... thigh-high boots... as long as they have heels.

This is an out-growth, a separate joining, of our regular website - The Fetish Lair (http://www.thefetishlair.com) where we showcase and make available original pictures and videos of models wearing fetish footwear...

Yes, there is a membership to the main viewing area, but for the casual observer, you can check out the guest gallery, the forum, and even the shoe museum.

But here, we'll talk about things that are more fluid in the world of high heels... things that don't normally pertain the regular site.

And we'll share ideas, opinions and news.

Heelfully Yours
Gillian