What is wrong with wearing a high heeled shoe anyway?
I’m amazed at how many times I hear this comment. Oh sure, there’s always the medical community warning of the dire consequences of wearing anything on your feet above an inch, each one smoking a cigarette as they make these declarations.
Yes, excess in anything will kill you.
But high heeled shoes are provocative, sensual, alluring and make the legs look great.
Crocs are for gardens.
By the way, Crocs now have to be sold with a warning disclaimer notifying people of the hazards of wearing Crocs and navigating an escalator. I, myself, have seen what could have been a terrible accident when a girl’s Croc folded up on her and caused her to fall forward on the escalator, and she did not tumble to the bottom only because of kind folks who caught her. Incidentally, the person wearing 5” heels farther up the escalator made the passage through with less dramatics - other than giving some old geezers a heart attack watching from the food court.
In the city I live in, anyone wearing high heels and a short skirt is instantly labeled a prostitute, regardless of where the said wearer is standing or walking. You’d think it was Pleasantville. Perhaps it is – does seems a little black and white in the winter time.
One should appreciate the high heel shoe for what it is… a glamorous item to adorn the feet.
The other day it snowed quite a bit here. One of those freak storms that hits in October and brings all the old branches down from the trees. So there was some ice build up before the day’s sun had fully hit the sidewalks.
I was sipping a joe and waiting for transit when a girl ran by trying to catch a cross-town. Expertly she stepped over the big mounds of snow, stepped elegantly on the icy patches and made the bus without a misstep – all the time wearing 5inch heel pumps.
She managed this better than some men did in their sensible shoes.
The high heels do not cause problems unless you let them happen. Bad posture, bad shoes, inattention to the very act of walking probably are the cause of more accidents than high heel related incidents.
I was running late and came to my favourite spot to wait for the bus. Watch the badly shoed masses stream by and such. But today it cheered my heart when I saw a young lady wearing high heeled boots with a short skirt and an overcoat that matched the hem of the skirt in length. She was obviously self conscious about her footwear and I smiled at her and complimented her on her boots and asked where she got them. Her confidence buoyed, she trotted off to catch her transit. I caught mine feeling good, knowing that the high heeled tradition is alive and well.
Heelfully Yours
Gillian
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Labels: boots, high heels, pumps
High heels and corsets make you feel sexy!
Why should anyone wear high heels?
Well, there is no reason. No reason at all. Doesn’t make sense and if you looked at high heels pragmatically, one should never wear high heels.
But then… why would anyone wear jeans half way down their legs causing them to walk like a castrated penguin. No reason at all. Doesn’t make sense and if you looked at wearing jeans half way down one’s legs causing one to walk like a castrated penguin… one should never where jeans like that.
You can say the same for baseball caps on backwards rendering the bill of the cap useless. Or, you could say wearing hooded parka’s in the middle of summer to be, well, odd as well. Or, bandanas that cover your eyes… should I go on?
High heels on the other hand causes the wearer to walk and stand in a sexy position, whereas the aforementioned apparel items tend to make you look like a penguin. Have you ever seen a guy running wearing jeans half way down their legs causing them to walk like a castrated penguin. Not pleasant. Often comical.
Whereas, some one running in high heels is often done, with less hilarity. Unless, you are in a movie and then you will fall down to allow the chainsaw wielding maniac to catch up. Unless, you’re the person chasing, then you have no problem running and catching the diamond thief.
Ahh, one always falls down while wearing high heels while being chased by a chainsaw wielding maniac. True… but so does the sneaker wearing cheerleaders, what’s your point.
High heels serve only one person. To convey sexual power and sexuality. Is that a problem. (okay, those of you from the Church of Making Life Boring Latter Day Downers CMLBLDD can leave the room)
While wearing high heels, a sense of sexuality overwhelms the wearer. Not unlike wearing a corset… a tight corset for that matter. It curves your waist and makes you stand, and sit, more erect. The high heels, the corset, are both items of clothing that never let your body forget you’re wearing them. Unlike baggy fleece sweats and bulky pullovers, items of clothing indistinguishable from pajamas, corsets and high heels chafe against your skin, tug and pull and always remind one they are on your person.
There are two types of clothing wearers in the general public weal. I label them the Guess girls and the Clown girls. The Guess girls wear heels, have well maintained haircuts that lend to the provocative, tight skirts and tops, and are not afraid to show some leg. The clown girls look like… well… clowns. Really! Bulky pullovers with some sort of slogan on them… fleece track pants that usually have some sort of school name on the butt… Ugly boots, and if the climate is cooler… one of those bulky, Nordic woven hats that have flaps over the ears with strings that dangle (but never tied) and one has to make sure the top sticks way up into the air. All that is missing is a red nose and large gag horn.
Strangely, each group thinks they are sexier than the other. I, for one, think the contest is more like Angelina Jolie versus a Manatee. (not to say there are guys out there that get all excited around a Manatee… and conversely, Manatee’s that get excited when they see Ms Jolie.) All things considered, Angelina is easier on the eyes and gets hit with far less boat propellers.
So wear your high heels and if you feel adventurous, your corset, and let these items of clothing remind with each body movement how sexy you are. Why not?
Heelfully Yours
Gillian
High Heel Shoes... it's An Acquired Taste.
Why would anyone wear high heels in the first place?
This is something I hear a lot of – or – high heels … I just don’t get it… it doesn’t do anything for me.
And these are valid comments. Unfortunately, for those of us who DO love high heels these sentences are mere gibberish. They might as well be saying, diggity, diggity, ya, ya, traveling pants.
You get it or you don’t.
Just like fishing. I don’t get that… can’t see the attraction of standing around with a pole and line in your hands waiting for a fish to mistake a rubbery doodad for a night-crawler and jump into your fishing net.
Equally, I don’t get TV shows on fishing period. Might as well sit on a couch staring up at three fruit flies buzzing around a lighted lamp.
High heels are sex. Period. Nothing less. They make a woman walk and feel sexy. Men enjoy looking at heels and legs. High heels and shapely legs go together like Penn & Teller. Penn without Teller is just, well… exceedingly odd!
To watch a woman walk with skill and panache wearing high heels is always such a sexy sight. Watching a woman wearing flip flops does not hold the same charm or allure. Flip flops, for some unknown reason, seem to cause wearers to splay their feet outward and become Charlie Chaplin as they walk. (Accept for Asian woman, who seem to have a knack for walking delicately in flip flops).
A woman wearing heels can not walk in such a fashion. The heels force one to walk with feet and toes facing forward, and if the wearer is feeling provocative, will sway the leading foot slightly to the opposite side of the body causing a glide, not unlike a speed skater as they hit their stride.
That is the difference. That is the attraction of high heels. Extreme heels are somewhat kinky, but if you ask me, so are facial peels. (I think, and I could be wrong here, but peeling away layers of skin was a medieval torture… something akin to someone being skinned alive)
And yet… some people don’t get high heels.
And so be it!
If you don’t get it, then don’t visit my crib! I don’t visit those who adore flip flops! It’s a crazy world that way. Some people listen to Britney Spears while others listen to Goldfrapp. It’s a matter of taste.
So let’s recap then, shall we.
Famous movie stars who wore/wear heels… Angelina Jolie, Marilyn Monroe, Ava Gardner, Bettie Page, Jennifer Lopez, Jean Harlow, Gwen Stefani, Gwyneth Paltrow and so many more..
Those stars who made impressions in flip flops. Can’t think of anyone. Perhaps the girls on Hee Haw!
It’s clear to all now. Heels are sexy. Heels are provocative and alluring. And for those who don’t get it… get over it!
Gillian
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Sensible shoes (blah) - High Heels (Yeah!)
The last few months have been better than most. Perhaps the flip flop, croc fad is over?
I have seen many more women wearing significant heels as an everyday occurrence and it is heartening and so refreshing to see. I have seen in broad daylight a lady wearing thigh-high boots – casually. Now, high heels are great all the time, but I am also seeing just better shoes on ladies in general and this can only be a good thing.
Yet I was intrigued by the gait of these women. Some were super slim and others a little more chunkified – but each showed the same characteristic when they walked.
Because there buts were jammed a little higher on the back side, when they took a step forward ( and as their leg swung towards the front of their body) I noticed how the cheeks of the butt would drop a little and then swivel upwards.
One lady, who had obviously been wearing heels for years, and who was wearing these amazing boots that stopped just above the knee, had a step that was very accustomed to wearing heels. Her legs would accommodate automatically for each step and she walked with a confidence and a slow, sexy pace that emphasized the heels and the boot but did not show any sign of strain or clumsiness. I was in awe.
Further, I saw another women who dashed down the street in 4 inch heels stepping over grating and pan-handlers as if she was wearing a snug pair of Adidas. Coincidently, another women slipped and fell stepping of a curb – in flats. The shoe just slipped of her foot and by not concentrating managed to tumble onto the pavement, shopping bags and humility lying beside her.
Yes, the doctors and religious right decry the wearer of the high heel shoe. However, I see just as much damage done with those flimsy and unsupportive ballet slippers that seems to be the new rage. (Marge Simpson shoes)
Stop the yelling and at least get a pair of good shoes… shoes that fit… that support. And yes if they happen to have a 5” heel on them… all the better!
Heelfully Yours
Gillian
Conformity, thy name is tastelessness
Conformity. It’s been on my mind lately.
The reason is the change of seasons actually. Spring doesn’t exist anymore and now we move from Winter to Summer in the space of a thunderstorm.
And with that is the departure of boots and their leathery enclosures and spikey heels (usually) and is replaced with flip-flops, crocs and the like.
Sigh!
However, I was thinking the other day, almost praying, that this phenomena doesn’t exist in other places … in other cities. This city, Melonville, is filled with lemmings. (I’ve spoken of this before.)
Fashion lemmings. If one person establishes a fashion atrocity (e.g. crocs) then everyone rushes out to emulate it. Heaven forefend if they are caught NOT looking exactly like the person next to them.
For example, the shirts. There is a fashion right now, where one is to where a slightly smaller shirt over a baggier shirt of which hangs down over the bum. It gives the appearance of having dressed in the dark. Probably an Old Navy perpetration – and - can you blame them!! It doubles their shirt sales – Voila!
Everyone wears this uniform now.
Ten years back it was the black top, khaki pants fad. I used to call it the Melonville uniform. It was like one of those horrible scary movies where everyone in town is possessed by creatures from an alien lagoon and must wear the same thing.
Ditto for acid wash ten years before that!
That brings us to today. That is why everyone wears flip-flops and crocs. Not to mention that many have poor taste. Especially in their choice of shoes.
High heels are not for everyone. I wouldn’t want that. It would detract from the elegance of them and frankly, given the propensity of most to gravitate to ugly shoes, the quality of the high heel would degenerate. (e.g. running shoe high heels – what was that about!)
So the equation is thus: poor taste + lemmingness = flip-flops (variable is crocs)
It just doesn’t add up to a good summer – shoe wise!
Heelfully Yours
Gillian
Blessed Is the High Heel, And Lo Shall It Be
Blessed are those with high arches.
It does give us an unfair advantage. I have extremely high arches so wearing high heels has never presented itself as an issue. For those not so blessed it must make walking in heels all that much harder.
And yet…
One can get used to it. What makes walking in high heels so difficult is… NOT walking high heels.
For instance, if you watch a downhill skier fly past the posts at break neck speeds you say to yourself… can’t be hard, you just slap sticks to your feet and push off at the top of the hill and let the miraculous work of gravity suck you down the hill.
Oh yeah… give it whirl sometime. Make sure all your affairs are in order and that the health coverage is paid in full.
Or perhaps car racing! Driving around a large oval, one direction… heck I do that on the freeway all the time. Fast and furious… Tokyo Drift up the off-ramp all the time after scooting underneath the big rig to catch the de-acceleration lane in time.
Okay … give that a whirl sometime.
Once again, paramedics should be standing by and maybe a Priest or two.
It is not that easy but those who do participate in these sports make it look easy. Why? Well, they don’t sit around watching ‘Rosanne’ reruns eating pork rinds all week - then get up off the couch, head to the slope and then ski!
They practice all the time.
The same holds true of high heels. Wear them every so often and yeah!! They’re gonna hurt. So duh! That’s why I can’t forbear anyone who shuns high heels because they hurt their precious little tootsies.
Ski once and awhile and boy that is gonna hurt too! So duh!
Do purchase a couple of pairs of high heel shoes ( or boots) and wear them into the ground. Your life will improve dramatically and you can also say you're and extreme sport practitioner. Slammin’, dawg!
Heelfully Yours
Gillian
Labels: heels, high heels, shoes
The Winter of Our Discontented Heels
Well, it's winter time. Something about discontent.
And boy am I discontented.
Usually, the winter time allows boot wearers to show of their heels and leather clad legs. Boots are easier for most to wear heels as the leathery shaft up and over the ankles allows some measure of support.
But alas... what do I see. Crocs and even flip flops.
Not to mention even though there's a couple of inches of snow on the ground these ugly shoes still show up.
Mind you, I live and work and fetish in a university town, so the rule is to dress like you're staying at the Salvation Army
It's not necessary... these are rich students. I mean... very rich. But their fashion sense is shameful and borders on being discriminatory, if at the very least hypocritical.
Yet lo' and behold what did I see tonight!!
A vision.
A loveliness!
A girl wearing shiny black platform boots. Nothing fancy. Just with jeans and a stylish jacket. It was understated and sexy all at once. And she walked magnificently in them.
But why not?
It's amazing what humans can do with practice. Just watch the Cirque du Soleil Those acrobats can twist and jump and climb and well… they can do anything they put their mind to – to create art with their bodies.
The same holds in the other direction, such as the family in Turkey where they walk on all fours because their minds tell them this is the way it should be done.
High heel shoes are not that difficult to walk in. . . only the state of mind makes it so.
Heelfully Yours
Gillian
Labels: boots, heels, high heels, shoes
Why Hide the High Heels? Why?
Wearing high heels can be secretive, if you want.
You don’t have to wear them with a tight skirt and a nice wide belt. You should… but you don’t have to is what I’m saying.
Why not show off your heels is my motto.
This came about when I noticed an attractive woman, very Mediterranean in appearance, who was wearing some nice boots with 4 inch high heel spikes. Perfect said I.
We were both riding the public transit and she was engrossed in a cell-phone conversation… but then who isn’t these days. I suspect more people get hit by buses while talking on their phones than one would imagine.
She got up and then I realized that the jeans she was wearing completely covered her heels and boots. The hem of the pant leg ended just at the floor completely obscuring the heel and all but the tip of her pointed boot.
Okay, if you are embarrassed about wearing heels, although, I can’t imagine why, this is the route to go. And I applaud the fact she was wearing some significant high heels. Yet, it almost felt like a hollow victory because the beauty of the heel was hidden, even though her gait was graceful and predicated by the heels which gave her that fantastic step.
Oh well… at least she was wearing heels. Perhaps I should take the victory and go home.
Which I did.
Heelfully Yours
Gillian
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Skirts and Heels, Skirts and Heels... Oh My!
There’s nothing like seeing a well fitting skirt with some high heel shoes.
Oh, sure… high heel shoes or boots look fantastic with jeans or pants. Yet, seeing a nice skirt, short or long, with a pair of heels is always refreshing and very sexy.
Provocative even.
And that is the way you should show of your heels… with a nice skirt. The skirt doesn’t have to be tight. It certainly helps, but a skirt that falls just right and enhances the shoes can do more than a tight skirt.
So put away the jean skirts. That’s so last millennium. Besides, if your over 18, it’s no longer chic. No longer cool.
Go with the classic black skirt. It always works, anytime of the year.
As for high heels shoes… the nice thing with a black skirt is you can use just about any colour other than brown.
Besides, if your going to invest high heel shoes that properly fit, then buying brown or even worst – burgundy – shoes is a total waste of money. And says more about your personality than it does about your fashion sense.
So ditch the brown shoes. For the love of all that is sacred, get rid of the brown shoes. Now what you have left will match nicely with those black skirts you just own.
And if after your brown shoe purge has left your shoe closet a little empty… well! Need I say it!! Shoe shopping!!!
Heelfully Yours
Gillian
The Walk Is All In The High Heel Shoes
Walking in high heel shoes corrects your gait.
It does. Really!
I noticed this the other day, while I was sitting in a shopping mall sipping a fresh cup of joe, when I started to notice the way some woman walk.
Odd, I thought to myself. There’s something I have overlooked. I noticed an attractive young lady with a snappy hair style and rather voluptuous breasts. She was well dressed although a little casual, but she was wearing the dreaded flip flops.
No matter… I mean … this is Flip flop town… after all.
Beside the point that wearing flips flops to a shopping mall rather than a pair of nicer shoes is akin to wearing scuba diving fins to a fancy restaurant, the flip flops, if worn all the time, I believe starts to train the wearer to walk like a penguin.
You heard it… like a penguin.
Why you ask?
I have noticed this trait over the years but never put it together. That wearing certain forms of shoes (e.g. flip flops, cowbot boots) causes the wearer to walk with a shuffle and the feet splayed outwards like a penguin.
Probably so they can walk in those shoes.
They kind of take on the appearance of a character in a Dr. Suess animation.
Whereas a person who wears high heel shoes is forced to walk in a straight line, one foot in front of the other, and causes the wearer to become conscious of each step and the way their body moves.
High heels trains the whole body to move with grace and precision, whereas if all you have worn are flops and runners, then you tend to walk like a football player… or even a penguin.
Therefore, I cry out to the modern world. Forsake the flops and runners and begin to wear high heels… for your own sake. At least stop wearing them in shopping malls. I mean really!
Heelfully Yours
Gillian
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